You know the saying, right, that we’re all students and teachers in life? And then you think, oh yeah that’s true, well said!


People, this one is really worth thinking through. Because it has so much to do with self-love and self-esteem. And it counters self-loathing and despair.  Now let that be the core issue of most struggles-with-the-self :-)  So take a moment with me here to dive in.

First of all, the mere idea that we are here to learn, gives us an endless playfield to play, try, fail and try again. Who ever expected from first grade kids that they would know how to write and how to add 42 to 65?
The idea is so ridiculous, right?  But IT’S WHAT WE ALL DO on the level of life lessons.
Once we graduate from school, we think we have seen it all and we switch off the learning button. From that moment on, no more mistakes are to be made and no learning curve is to be allowed. We’re adults now, goddammit, we know how to do stuff.

And that unconscious assumption gives us the right to mentally beat ourselves up for every mistake we make. I think it’s a very interesting perspective to look upon our inner critic. Because it offers us a valuable alternative: the teacher. Or even better: the coach. One who knows that our whole life is a learning curve. One who knows that making mistakes is the best way to grow and integrate lessons. And one who reminds us of that when we fail or blunder.

You feel the relief and the space…?

A loving space to grow and play… it’s what we want to give our kids and so often forget to give ourselves :-) .

Now there’s more. (I told you it was worth standing still for!)

You can use this saying to take a fresh look at your relationships in life. Here’s a fun thing to do that will entirely change your perspective. Think of someone who plays an important role in your life right now, for better or for worse. (The exercise gets extra interesting when you take the for worse part). Let your thoughts come up and listen. Then ask yourself the question: what is he or she for in my life? What can he/she teach me? And what can I teach him/her?

(It will always be an and/and-situation. You can always AND learn from AND teach someone. That’s one of the utter beauties and utter meanings of living together.)

Now listen again.  And tell me what you’ve experienced!  You can do this with anyone in your life but it especially helps to reframe relationships that feel wrong or icky or threatening.

Ask yourself every day this week: what did I teach today?  what did I learn today?  It’ll be like a fresh autumn breeze blowing through your mind and soul…